Are You Losing Your Handyman?

Getting divorced brings many changes to your life, some of which when embraced, can offer you opportunities to grow and even pick up some handy new skills.

Most families have what I call a division of labor - each spouse has their assigned chores which help the family function and get through the day. Some are obvious and traditional- husbands mow the lawn, wives manage the household. Other necessary tasks may be assigned to one partner or the other because they are more organized or better with money than the other.

In modern families, many traditional roles have faded and blended between spouses, but every family still has those tasks which clearly are on one's to do list or the others. For example, my husband was in charge of replacing light bulbs (I'm 5'1"), putting together anything with more than four pieces that came in a box, and changing the more than 40 clocks around the house (including clocks,watches, electronics and appliances) when daylight savings time came or went.

When we separated, these tasks were just as challenging and frightening in their own way, as all the real heavy stuff that comes with a divorce. I know some of my clients have been overwhelmed with doing laundry for the first time, taking charge of their auto maintenance, paying the bills, buying gifts for their family, starting a pilot light, building shelves in a closet, and so many more chores.

I actually learned how to turn on my DVD player, mastered which remote worked for what gadget, assembled a decorative set of shelves with many pieces and screws, and (the worse) put myself on a budget.

By understanding that all things are manageable, and keeping your sense of humor, you will conquer any new challenge. Even better, doing so will give you a sense of confidence, accomplishment and peace of mind- all of which help the healing process.

You may even discover you are really good at something new!

About Joanne Nadell, Esquire

As a New Jersey divorce attorney who specialize in Mediation and Collaborative law, my goal is to assist you in taking control of your divorce and family matters by resolving your personal and financial disputes.

The best method for resolving these family disputes is to use self-determination, your own mind and goals to set the future for yourself, your soon-to-be-ex-spouse and your children. After twenty years of divorce and family litigation, I have had enough of litigation.

Mediation and Collaborative Law are truly the keys to resolving conflict and working out divorce and family issues without the delays and bureaucratic paperwork and deadlines associated with standard divorce litigation. 

Families that want to save months of time, thousands of dollars and have a solution that both people agree with are just plain smart.

For more information, please feel free to give me a call at (732) 741-7776 or visit my website at http://www.atlanticdivorcemediation.com